![]() You may want to try speaking to someone via for practical advice that is tailored to your exact circumstances. Why? Because they have the training and experience to help you figure out how to keep him interested. You know what’s best for you, so trust yourself.Speak to a certified relationship counselor about this issue. So all in all, I say, listen to and trust your instincts. Perhaps the reason we don’t hear about this happening amongst divorcees is because instinctively, we know it’s very wrong. If you’ve made the choice to move on, then you need to shield your heart and trust your instincts. Your love for yourself is too precious to be put at risk like that. What then, when he tells you he doesn’t want you back? You’ll be heartbroken and feeling more alone than you ever felt before. ![]() Once you get to this point, there’s only one direction you’ll hope for. No matter how much you try to play it off as “just sex”, eventually you’re going to start seeing it as more. You cannot control who you develop feelings for. This is my number one reason because there is no pain worse than losing all respect and love for yourself by risking your heart for someone who doesn’t deserve it. Your self-respect is too important to risk. Instead of moving forward, their hopes of becoming a family again will only set them back and hurt them more. ![]() If they sense that you’re still sharing a bond, it’ll give them a false hope that “mommy and daddy” are getting back together. Of course they’re not going to know that you’re still having sex unless they’re old enough but they’ll pick up on the heightened emotions when you are both around each other. Kids are very intuitive and there’s a good chance they’ll pick up on the fact that the two of you are still “hanging on” which will only confuse them more. Chances are you are only going to get more hurt. There’s no magic spell to make someone fall in love with you. So if you’re trying to get him to fall in love with you and whisk you back to the altar, sleeping with him will only disappoint you. Because if you were truly in love, chances are you wouldn’t have separated. It requires a mutual respect and desire to put someone else’s needs before your own. Yes, there is an undeniable emotional bond between two people who are physically intimate but love requires a lot more than just sex. Sex will not make him fall in love with you all over again. You can’t possibly move on if you’re still intimately connecting with the man you used to “share everything” with! 3. One or both people will develop expectations that will keep you from moving on. This gray area provides a bridge for emotional expectations. Having sex with your ex forces the separation into a gray area no matter what because you’re still bonding intimately. The only dimension that should still remain intact is parenting. If you have both made the decision to sever your bond, then you need to move on from all dimensions of the relationship. Divorce and separation are black and white. So don’t expect a trip down memory lane if you sleep with your ex. You got divorced because either the connection you once had is gone or changed and so is the sex you once shared. No matter how good it was before, it won’t be as good now because the connection you had has at the very least changed. Good sex does not happen without some sort of emotional connection. Here are my top five reasons from least to most important. Now I’m going to give you the same advice. After thinking about it for a while, I gave her my reasons for why she shouldn’t sleep with her ex. I asked if she honestly wanted my advice and after she replied yes, I told her we both needed to sleep on it for a night. Now of course I do my best to not judge people and to give my most honest and caring advice. What was even more surprising is that she was seriously considering it! Her ex-husband had casually brought up the idea of continuing a “friends with benefits” relationship. Well, I was recently talking to my good friend and she asked for my advice. The physical bonding of sex can be so strong that it’s been proven to directly affect our emotions. We all want and need the physical benefits of sex. Then of course there are our physical needs. ![]() I know when I got divorced, there were so many times I felt alone and I wanted to run back to my ex-husband for a visit down memory lane that would take away my loneliness. This is a problem I thought was only significant in the world of dating but apparently as I’ve recently learned it’s also happening between divorced and separated couples!Įnding a marriage is emotionally difficult.
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